Are you tired of short term relationships with people who just never fit the bill?

Have you just gotten out of a long term relationship and you have made up your mind that you will never do that again?

Do you feel like all men or women are the same?

Either reason for throwing in the towel is understandable, but before you go into relationship retirement, please read the rest of this article.

Sometimes smoothly paved roads filled with love gradually become bumpy, riddled with cracks, roadblocks, and blind turns.

This can definitely take its toll on you over time.

Although the pain and heartache from your previous relationship may have caused you to give up on love, giving up may not be the best solution.

Unfortunately, you and many others have gone down this road of love to be left heartbroken and disappointed, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on love entirely.

In fact, there are many steps you can take to heal and continue moving down the road.

Below are some suggestions and reminders to help you take the first steps in finding hope after heartbreak.

*Don’t forget to read Emotions of Love’s uplifting poems that relate to giving up on love.

Focus on Loving Yourself

Instead of completely giving up on love, just put love on the back burner and focus on yourself for a while.

Take your past experiences and use them as tools to build boundaries to reject anything that attempts to devalue you.

Self love is key to building and sustaining a happy relationship.

Loving others can only come after you truly begin loving yourself.

Take some time to reflect on what you value and appreciate about yourself.

Celebrate your achievements, praise your strengths, gently encourage your weaknesses, and work on developing self-care practices to incorporate into your day-to-day life that make you feel good about yourself from the inside out.

Other people can sense when you have self love present and unfortunately, they can also sense when you don’t.

Building a natural loving barrier around yourself will not only attract like-minded individuals, but it will naturally treat people how to treat you. 

Don’t Rush into Relationships

Rushing down the road to love can lead you to missing important signs and landmarks that help keep you on track and safe.

Remember, taking things slow and steady regarding relationships allows you and your potential partner to take the time needed to truly get to know one another.

The most important thing to remember during this season you’re in is that healing takes time.

It’s okay to feel sad or frustrated, but you don’t have to give up on love or yourself.

Be kind to yourself, lean into your friends and family, and always treat yourself with compassion and grace.

The bottom line is to take your time and date without expectations. Raising the bar too high too soon has too much potential for premature let downs, which could lead you back to feeling like giving up. 

Build Positive Non-Romantic Relationships

One of the things that happens to a lot of people in relationships for various reasons is that their social circle gets smaller or becomes non-existent.

This may be the best time to rekindle pre-existing relationships with family and friends or start new ones.

When you have strong platonic relationships among your family and friends, you are more likely to grow in confidence and self-esteem, which goes a long way in attracting a potential romantic partner.

Also, building or re-establishing connections with family and friends is usually much easier.

So if your social circle has been lacking, reconnect or rebuild your circle and go out without the goal of finding a romantic partner, but instead, finding the new you.

Be Open To New Experiences 

It’s easy to isolate when you’re feeling down, and it’s easy to fall into old habits and routines.

It’s important to go out of your comfort zone and try new things or explore new places during this challenging time.

Join a club, take a community class, or try a new hobby.

This will give you a chance to meet new people and help you discover new things you’re passionate about. 

Remember That Love Makes People Happier And Healthier 

It’s important to remember some positive impacts love has on your life.

Love is not just a nice feeling that offers no benefits outside of that. In fact, love is considered a necessity for living a happy and healthy life.

According to various research studies like the University of Utah Health and others, not only does love provide health benefits for your emotional well-being, but it also positively impacts your physical health.

When you’re in love, it causes changes in hormones, including oxytocin, vasopressin, dopamine, serotonin, cortisol, and testosterone.

These “happy hormones” can help in many ways, including decreasing blood pressure, decreasing stress, and decreasing the chances of heart disease, to name a few. 

Of course, all the benefits of all love can be counterproductive if you don’t practice self-love before entering any type of a relationship. 

Conclusion: Focusing on yourself while you naturally live your best life with non-romantic relationships will give you plenty of time to forget about dating for a while. Don’t completely shut out the possibility of love and do not rush back into dating either. Finding a healthy balance of family, friends, and hobbies will help build the self love you deserve.